How I Prepare My Hair for a Protective Style

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Happy Hump Day!

Put your hands up if you have done a protective style, just to take it down to reveal extremely dry and brittle hair. I know I have and it can be quite discouraging to say the least. Although taking care of your hair for the duration of your protective is essential, preparing your hair prior is just as crucial. I have a few simple tips and tricks to help you and hopefully, this prevents some of the frustrations (and keeps your sanity intact).

  • PRE-POO (better known as Pre-Shampoo Treatment): I honestly feel like a broken record saying this but this step is very important. I think that it should be the first step in any hair routine, whether you protective style or not. It not only moisturizes your hair but prevents your (harsh) shampoo from stripping your strands. It also add shine to your hair, help with tangles and leaves your hair more manageable overall. Need I say more? Honestly, just try it out!

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  • CLEANSE: If you are going to have a long term protective style, I highly recommend that you give yourself a good wash. You want to have a clean environment for your hair to grow and to minimize any scalp issues such as flakes. I typically wash my hair during my protective styles but nothing beats doing it beforehand. It really doesn’t matter if you prefer a gentle clay wash, a shampoo bar or run straight for the chemicals! Just make sure your scalp is clean and happy.

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  • DEEP CONDITION: If you have natural or relaxed hair, it is so important to deep condition, according to your hair needs. You can either do a moisturizing deep conditioner and/or a protein one. Either way, make sure that you hair is in tip top shape before you ignore it for a month. I like to use a hair steamer – but you don’t have to. A plastic bag and your own body heat can work wonders, leaving your hair extremely soft. This minimizes breakage and help you retain growth. Let’s face it, there is no amount of protective styles that will “grow” your hair, if you aren’t taking the steps to prevent breakage.

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  • MOISTURIZE/SEAL/DETANGLE: Quite a mouthful but depending on your method, you can accomplish this all at the same. Right after I hop out of the shower, I start to detangle my hair. This is easier with moisturized hair. I work in sections and apply my leave-ins and moisturizers as I detangle. It doesn’t have to be such a chore. Just think of it as time that you are investing in yourself, for healthier/ longer hair in the future. That’s kind of a big deal.


  • PROTECT: All that is left to do at this point is to protect your hair. If longer hair is your goal, you need to protect your ends in order to retain growth. This include but not limited to twists, braids, wigs, buns etc… In the picture above, I am rocking this wig, which I love. In any case, just do something that you are comfortable with. Life is too short to be miserable.

I hope that this post is helpful, and at least give some insight into my wash day routine. Of course, consistency is key. Don’t expect long hair over night,  and be ready to put in some work. I am not so much focus on products in this post, as I feel that technique is more important. I have seen ladies achieve an unbelievable amount of growth using very few and inexpensive products.  Check out the video below, if you are more of a visual person!

Until next time, happy growing!



I am my own worst enemy


Hi guys!
Do you ever feel like you are just living in your head? My brain can be compared to a factory, working overtime twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week! Even when I am asleep, I find myself either dreaming about certain things that I want to accomplish/ forgot to do/ don’t want to forget or just plainly waking up in a panic! I met up with Kristina over a month ago. We were suppose to attend a fashion event here in Ottawa, but things didn’t quite work out as expected. Instead, we ended up grabbing a cup of coffee and catching up on life. We talked about how we are both experiencing similar feelings, and how it can be perceived as a sign of creativity!


It made sense, I mean I have so many ideas in my head and originally YouTube/blogging were meant to be a creative outlet for me; a way to express myself in a manner that I don’t get to in my day to day or at work. I have been thinking about this for a while now- told you I lived in my head. Frankly, I think that I am my own enemy. I hold myself back to the point that I let my perfectionism affect me in a negative way. If a blog post or video isn’t as perfect as I imagined, I will trash it. If the pictures aren’t as sharp as I planned, I will trash it. If the weather isn’t cooperating or an eye brow hair is out of place, well you guessed it. I have so many footage and pictures that are honestly just collecting dust on my hard drive. Oh Jesus, fix it!


Let me paint a picture for you. Kristina and I set up a date to take outfit pictures. You all should check out her blog btw, she is doing her THING. As I was running late – you know being at home and doing nothing takes so much of my time lol- I almost cancelled. Then, the sun went away and of course, so did my will to live LOL. All to say, I dragged myself out of the house and boy was I glad. We had a great time, and the pictures (featured in this post) turned out just fine.

Although I have a few videos that are ready to go/ blog posts that are ready to be posted, I want to put a stop to these sporadic uploads. I say that I am my own worst enemy, simply because I realize I have a million ideas that I never put into fruition. Additionally, when I do film a video or what have you, I tear it to shreds, claim that it isn’t good enough and never post it. As I was going through my hard drive to find pictures for this post, I stumbled across so many others that never made the cut. Yet, I go to sleep thinking about what I could have accomplished with them.


No more! I am deciding now to put a stop to this. I will go through my hard drive so don’t be surprise if you see pictures from years ago! I suppose it will be interesting as well to see how I did things back in the days. Being a content creator comes with a huge learning curve and it is constantly changing. That is the beauty of it.

All of that to say that I will be back, in full force on November 1st. I will be posting on the blog prior to that (hence this blog post), but in terms of youtube and Instagram, I will start posting consistently starting November. Hold me up to that, I have a lot coming your way!


Thank you for all the support over the years. I do not take it for granted!

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[Photo Credit- Kristina]

Watch→ Fossil
Bag→ Call it Sping
Hair→ HerGivenHair




img_9948Hey Guys!

If you follow my on my YouTube Channel, then you must know by now that I’ve wanted a change. I love my natural hair, but it was all I knew. As I mentioned in this video, I basically wanted to experiment more with my hair. I knew the risks going in and was fully ready to face the consequences. Although there are other and less damaging ways that I could experiment with my tresses, I knew that this is something I had to go through at some point in my life. Why not now? I wondered about how my hair would be relaxed for quite some time. untitled-2

I love hair. Period. I know a lot of people aren’t going to understand this decision, especially since I have a channel dedicated to my natural hair but I want to see my hair in different states. I still want to dye it, cut it, perm it, and lock it. Honestly, it is just hair! I want to have fun with it and not feel like it is this “thing” that I need to indefinitely take care of. I don’t believe that every women perm/relax/chemically alter their hair because of self-hate. I can’t speak for everyone, but I know it isn’t the case for me. At some point in life, I will go back to my natural hair but for now, I am having fun with it. Change is good. Change is what I wanted. Change is what I got. Check out the video below to hear my thoughts on my relaxer experience.





How To Slay & Maintain Your Puff on Natural Hair

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As I upload my latest youtube video, I realize that I rarely post about my natural hair on the blog. Considering that hair is such a big aspect of my life (it all started as a hair vlogger after all), I figured I should incorporate it on the blog more often, so here we go!

Today, I will go over the few steps that I follow in order to maintain a puff on 4C hair. I don’t leave my hair out very much, but when I do, it is guaranteed to be in a puff. It is such a chic, effortless hairstyle in my opinion, plus it is easy to maintain. What more can you ask for? I try not to do it too often, though. Just as it is easy to achieve, it is easy to forget/ignore your hair, which can result in a lot of single strand knots and dryness. Now that is a big no-no. So just like anything else in life, moderation is key,

1. ALWAYS TIE YOUR HAIR AT NIGHT- This will not only reduce the amount of knots you get but also will prevent your hair from drying out. If your hair is similar to mine, this is key to preventing breakage. You should be using a satin scarf at night, regardless of the hairstyle you have.

2. SPRITZ YOUR HAIR- I find that my hair is a lot more manageable when I spray it with some water. I take it a step further and use a little leave-in moisturizer and an oil to moisturize my hair.

3. USE AN EDGE CONTROL- This step really gives your hairstyle a flawless finish. I personally don’t like to use a lot of gel but I finally found an edge control that stole my heart. It is light weight and doesn’t flake or leave my hair really hard. Use a soft bristle brush to tame those edges.

4. GOODIES HAIRBANDS ARE YOUR BEST FRIEND  I honestly don’t know any other ways of achieving a puff. You really need them in your life and they are fairly inexpensive. I like to purposely stretch them out so that I can wrap them around my hair twice. That way, they are tight enough, but now too tight to the point that they will give me a headache. Know what I am sayin’?

5. WORK IT- The bigger the better! Just let your hair do its thing. Honestly, just OWN it.

I hope that these steps are helpful and if you have any questions, leave me a comment.

Thanks again for stopping by!




My Style in Three Looks

Spring LookBook

Hey Guys!

I hope that you all had an amazing Easter. As you all know, I have been cleaning out my closet/basically finding out new gems that I had purchased, but forgotten about. What a feeling to have a clean, organized space, where you can find exactly what you need? Although I am not completely done with such an overwhelming task, I decided to put together a lookbook, showcasing some of the pieces that I have been loving lately. I feel like these outfits really capture my developing style, in the essence that they are chic, yet comfortable.



I love the color of this bag. It really makes me feel well put together, yet is fairly practical. I honestly can stuff my entire life in there and have space left over. I rarely wear skirts but I actually love the relax look from this one.

Skirt→ Garage
Tights→ Forever21
Shoes→ Call it Spring
Scarf→ Aldo
Bag→ Dynamite


Who doesn’t like a pop of color? Especially with the warmer weather (supposedly) coming around, it is a great way to transition from Winter to Spring. These shoes really took this look to the next level. Ironically, I still had the tag on when I “discovered” them and they were on super sale when I purchased them. Gotta love a great bargain!

Jeggins→ H&M
Shoes→ Forever21
Bag→ Call it Spring
Jacket→ H&M


This last look is my favorite and was my Easter Sunday look. I absolutely love this olive jacket and it is a recent buy. I decided to pair it with a floral top, in an effort to hint to mother nature that I am more than ready for the hot weather. I actually got it from Forever21, which is odd for me. It is VERY rare that I find something that fit me from their stores. I find that their sizes run big and never quite fit me how I like. Although I usually stick to their shoes/accessories,  I couldn’t resist trying this on and to my surprise, I loved it.

Jeans→ Zara
Top→ Sirens
Shoes→ Payless

I hope you enjoyed this post and I cannot wait to share more of my style with you all. Do let me know which one was your favorite in the comments below.

p.s: A great way to bring your favorite looks to life is by making a photo book with Social Print Studio! It is a great way to showcase all your favorite looks in one place



Can We Start Over?


Sigh, where do I even start?

At this point, I feel like I should re-introduce myself. This relationship doesn’t seem to be going very well now, is it? Apparently, I have commitment issues but I am willing to work on it. Dare to give me another chance? Last time I was around was well over 4 months ago and this is unacceptable. I hope that you can forgive, forget and allow us to start over with a clean slate.

With the new year upon us, I vow to become a lot more active on this platform. I have a lot of ideas cooking up in my head that I want to share with you all. This year, I want to stop over analyzing my every move and just LIVE. I want to take chances (and that is saying a lot in my case as I am so overly cautious).

I have thought about the direction I want to take with this blog. I enjoy blogging and vlogging because it connects with so many wonderful people. I blog to interact with other natural hair enthusiasts and it allows me to dip into a creative world that I wouldn’t have access to otherwise. As I get older however, I find myself becoming more and more attracted to all things beauty and that includes make-up! *gasp*. I have been down right obsessed lately, to the point that my own family doesn’t recognize me.

As a result, I want to make this blog a lifestyle blog, where I share all of my interests including hair, beauty, health and DIYs. I am challenging myself, and stepping our of my comfort zone. Expect a lot more content and let’s cheers to a successful year!



Positive Vibes

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H&M Shirt | SUZY SHIER Pants | PAYLESS Flats

Hey all!

I was feeling so blue last week! I was really down about my laptop giving out on me and all the trips I had to make to the Apple Store, just to go nowhere. If you follow my Instagram, I posted a picture a few weeks ago, explaining that I would commit to Youtube, this blog and that I would do my very best to post at least a video/ blog post weekly. Of course, just a few days later my laptop stops functioning unexpectedly.  Usually I try to make the best out of every situation, but this one got to me. I had just spent so much money to get the battery replaced and it honestly felt like everything was going sideways! I was just very annoyed at life!

Luckily, I was able to get one last video off my laptop from my last trip to the Apple Store and uploaded it. I am so happy I was able to do so, not for the sake of uploading a video, but because of the response I got. So many people were telling me not to stress out over it and that everything will work out on its own! I needed to hear that. So a heartfelt “thank you” to those who left positive vibes on my last video. Sometimes we make plans, but God has other things in mind for us.

Ps.These pictures were taking a few months ago, when I had straighten my hair.



Cleaning Out My Closet

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Have you ever felt like you wanted a makeover? Like you wanted to be part of TV shows such as “How Do I Look” or “What Not To Wear”? Well, I have. And lately the daunting task of cleaning out my closet has been hunting me. I promise you, I have clothes from possibly middle school hiding in the back on my closet, collecting dust. To make matters worse, I also have pieces that I have never even worn with the tags still on!

Since I have been thinking of updating my wardrobe, I have decided to change these bad habits and give myself a complete makeover. I have been feeling this way for quite some time. I need a change of style. As I get older, I am developing to a more classic, timeless yet comfortable sense of style. I am going for the minimalist look so I know I have some serious purging to do. However, before I go crazy and start to donate my entire wardrobe, I have made a promise to myself that I will wear each and every piece of clothing that I currently have, at least once. I mean, I bought them for a reason right. Unless they are either too small or just completely hideous, I will make use of them.

Basically, I am tired of having a closet filled with items, yet nothing to wear! I want to slowly move towards having a solid range of clothes that I want to wear; not a dizzying heap of things I have outgrown. Let’s not even mention the disastrous state that my closet is currently in, which makes is impossible to find anything! I will share my outfits with you all and perhaps, we can make this interactive. With each post, you can let me know your thoughts: To keep or to donate? That is the question. I hope you will follow me as I transition into this new “ME”.

Ps. For this post, I have no idea where the top or Jeans are from! They have been around since the Bush administration! Lol



The Infamous Wash-n-Go

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One the biggest misconceptions about Natural Hair is that only a certain hair type can pull of the Wash-N-Go look.  I often wonder what that actually means. The thing with natural hair is that no matter how similar your hair may be to another, it is really rare to have the SAME exact hair pattern and density as someone else. For that reason, your hairstyles may never looks exactly like your friend’s or your favorite YouTuber even though you followed the same steps. With that said, what exactly is the “Wash-N-Go” look? Big hair? Perfect curls? I believe that the reason why people believe that 4C hair cannot do the Wash-N-Go is because of the preconceived ideas of how the end results should LOOK like.

The Wash-n-go should be just that: wash and go! We often spend endless hours raking products through our already beautiful tresses in a desperate attempt to have the perfect curl all around. The thing is, your hair is already perfect. The point of the wash and go, in my opinion, is to spend as little time as possible styling your hair. I believe it is a time when you let YOUR hair decide how it’s going to behave. We already put so much tension and stress manipulating our hair on the regular so why not just let it be free? The first step to achieving a wash and go is to understand that your hair is not going to look like mine, or the person next to you. It is going to look like your hair. It is going to be unique and it may not even look like the last wash-go you did last week. That’s okay. That is the beauty of it all. Once you realize that the goal of a wash-n-go is not to have perfect curls, and that no products is going to CREATE a hair pattern that you don’t have, then you will be able to succeed. Any hair types can “pull off” this hair style.

To help you with the process however, I am going to share with you how I achieve my wash-n-go. I find that using the right products can help prevent my hair from getting dry. The goal for me is to be able to wash my hair a week later and not be left with dry, brittle hair. This basically rules out all gels with high alcohol! I ended up using the Eden Body Works Coconut Shea Line and I loved it!

  1. Wash hair: I like to start with clean hair. Especially since I know I will be putting more products in my hair, it was crucial for me to wash it. That way, my hair will not feel sticky and/or weight down
  2. Deep Condition: This goes without saying! 4C hair craves moisture and I know that I have to deep condition my hair weekly to keep it nice and manageable.
  3. Define: I should emphasize that this step should be quick and simple. Also, no amount of products will create curls magically. Whatever products your end up using, just make sure that it doesn’t try your hair out. Also, I like to detangle my hair then too. This is where i really love the Eden Body works Curl Defining Creme because it has a lot of slip. It allows me to finger detangle, which is gentle on my hair. It also keeps my hair moisturized the entire week!
  4. Refresh: This step is done as needed but I will basically spritz my hair with water every morning and used an oil to full it out again. I sleep in a satin bonnet so my hair is pretty flat in the morning.

That is it! Super simple and super easy! If you would like a visual representation of what I do, watch the video below. If you have any questions, please let me know! Now tell me how you achieve your wash-n-gos and what are your holy grail products? 




Listen To Your Heart

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Today I wanted to write about the importance of having a hobby. Personally, I can get so wrapped up into my day-to-day routines resulting in me getting pretty bored. You know: dealing with the not so interesting aspects of life such as work, school, finances, etc. that no one really WANTS to deal with but have to be done. So to spice things up a bit and to keep myself motivated, I try to do other things. I love to take pictures, film and edit YouTube videos, blog, read and sometimes play piano, if time permits. These activities disconnect me from routine life and also help reduce my stress level.
That being said, sometimes I ask myself why I blog. Other than the fact that it gives me a voice that I can use to communicate with you all, I often feel like a grain of sand by the ocean. With SO many other blogs out there, what do I have to offer of value? Lately, I have been feeling like I can no longer relate to fashion blogs like I once did. They are so “polished”, for lack of a better word, and while I can understand that with success comes change, I quite enjoy relaxed ‘outfits-of-the-days’ where I can afford what is being showcased and I am able to easily find the items/ similar pieces. I mean, do these bloggers really wear heels on a daily basis and sport a FULL face of make-up? LOL, oh you know I will choose comfort any day and I truly believe that you can look wonderful without having to spend 3 hours a day to get ready. I hope that through my more simplistic (and original) approach of blogging you can relate to me being a regular 20-something year old. Anyways, I digress.
Back to the topic at hand! Having a hobby keeps you sane. Some of us are fortunate enough to be able to make a living off of it, while others would risk becoming homeless as long as they are able to do what they love. I say: find balance in your life and do what makes you happy. It is yours after all! So GET CREATIVE: It’s never too late to add a new interest to your routine.